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How To Talk To Red Bones

Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week has officially started and people couldn't be more excited. I decided to look at some of the pictures from the event on global grind. I noticed that the pictures were missing something. That something was dark skinned women. After getting my fix of the Mercedes Benz models I turned on my television, still no dark skinned women. I wondered are dark skinned women going extinct.

Don't get me wrong I love red bone women, but you have to treat them in a totally different way. You have to approach them differently, talk to them differently and treat them differently as well. I personally don't even try to approach a light skinned women because I don't want to deal with the head ache. Yet, it seems like everyone I know has an opinion on how you treat a light skin women. Here are a few techniques that I've heard.

Ignore Them

One of my light skinned friends told me the way to her heart is to ignore her. I thought that was crazy but she explained to me that so many men are fixed on being with a red bone that she is quickly  annoyed by all the attention. So, she found that she ended up chasing the men who ignored her. I tried this with a light skinned girl I know from around the way. Needless to say it worked. We used to talk about ever other day, each conversation ending in my advances getting shot down until I thought to myself... “I'm the  lifestyle editor for Global Grind you should be chasing me” I hung up never to call her again. About 2 weeks later she called me at 12:40 am inviting me to come over.

Spoil Them

My homeboy Jay who has the one of the baddest red bones I've ever seen as one of his “bust It babies” would tell me “Xilla if you want a red bone like mine you have to spoil them” I know it's not tricking if you got it, but I still can't see myself dropping thousands on a girl just because she has fair skin. After a while she wouldn't be with you for you, rather for your money. I also refuse to think that light skinned women are that shallow. I never tried this, but it seems to work for him, they've been together since college.

Drag Them

I was in court  having a conversation with someone they called “Chain Gang Killa” when a light skinned court clerk walked into the room. It was like her body was custom made by God! Chain Gang Killa said “Yea she bad, but I can't stand those light skinned h*es” in a southern drawl, laced with venom that suddenly made me realize why they called him Killa. He started telling me how he would treat them like crap, by never calling them, never buying them a gift and even smacking them if they got out of line. I laughed thinking he was joking, until he mean mugged the court clerk so hard I thought her head was going to explode. I moved my seat once the conversation stalled.

After all these opinions I'm still not sure what the fascination is with red bones. All I know is that they are in every video, all the fashion shows and if there is a dark skinned beauty in the area the light skinned women outnumber them 3 to 1. I can't help but wonder if we live in a world full of Yung Bergs.

-Blogxilla

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September 09, 2008, 10:34 PM EST

are people really still talking about this? i thought we moved past this whole 'light skin v. dark skin' thing. its just another way for us to criticize and talk about one another. its very disheartening that this is still a topic of discussion..

StefExum

September 09, 2008, 10:53 PM EST

THIS IS THE SILLIEST THING I EVER HEARD! THE WAY TO ANY WOMANS HEART OF ANY SKIN COLOR IS BY TREATING HER LIKE A LADY, GIVE HER RESPECT AND HONESTY. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE COLOR OF YOUR SKIN. IGNORE ME YOU WILL BE IGNORED BACK, SPOIL ME YOU WILL BE SPOILED BACK,LOVE ME AND I WILL LOVE YOU BACK. IT'S THAT SIMPLE.  

BoOgie

September 09, 2008, 11:38 PM EST

Ha... funny as hell Xilla... keep 'em comin;

MandiiNichole

September 10, 2008, 09:07 AM EST

Wow =|

I'm just going to keep telling myself that this was written in humor.

Ignore Them:

Women all across the board (light or dark) that are constantly approached with the same lame lines or always chased & showered with "dayum girl you so fine" kinda "compliments" will inevitably become numb to that kind of attention. When a man brings something different to the table - even aloofness - its intriguing.

Spoil Them:

What person - man or woman, young or old, light or dark - doesn't like to be spoiled, at least sometimes?

Drag Them:

Any woman that sticks around for this kind of treatment has little to no sense of self-worth/value. Period. Doesn't matter what shade she is.

September 10, 2008, 09:13 AM EST

LOL.....ok

BlogXilla

September 10, 2008, 09:58 AM EST

Thanks you mandi!! yes Humor, but sprinkled with reality because people actually told me those things. I believe that if you be yourself you can get anyone.  

September 10, 2008, 10:21 AM EST

I'm not gon fake...I signed up on this site just to comment on this topic. It makes me feel victimized because I'm light-skinned.  I'm black though..not Latino.  Speak on that...I bet most of those "Red Bones" you saw weren't even African-American.  It seems like Spanish girls get all the attention these days..that's where some of the issues are.  Lay off the Red Bone talk...that *** is offensive because it's a huge generalization.  I feel you on the humorous aspect but it really made me uncomfortable to read the blog.

BlogXilla

September 10, 2008, 10:27 AM EST

I'm sorry if it made you feel uncomfortable but in the media there are not a lot of dark skinned people being shown on the tube. 2nd those are things i actually heard. people believe that.

and I close the blog by saying "All I know is that they are in every video, all the fashion shows and if there is a dark skinned beauty in the area the light skinned women outnumber them 3 to 1. I can't help but wonder if we live in a world full of Yung Bergs."

So the debate isn't really how to talk to a red bone it's more less whats the issue with skin color a conversation we need to have. people really think light skinned people are better than dark skinned people. my own mother treats my light skinned daughter better than my dark skinned daughter and i find it terrible.

Z1nOnly

September 10, 2008, 01:47 PM EST

Diverse set of opinions here people, I personally laughed, Xilla wrong? Nope he's bang on the money, yeah sure he trailed off at the end with the psycho mean muggin women beater example, but it doesn't change that yes it was written with humour in mind with a twist of bitter irony. I hear this age old colour debate, lets shake it up bit then. I was born in cali usa my mother is english born with scotish and irish parents with italian and welsh greatgrand parents blood. My father born in japan,his parents hawaiian and chinese with german and chinese great grand parents. Yes I am self professed mix raced mongrel,(have you read my name now you understand)

Z1nOnly

September 10, 2008, 02:27 PM EST

and to finish off...(submited to early lol)

i have dealt with dark vs light (skin) with pro and cons on both sides. By the way I married a so called red bone. When I moved to england in '86 dark skinned girls or boys wheren't common I was Z1only dark skinned boy/person in school. Back then it was 200 redbone to 1 brownbone now in 2008 its like 100 rb to 1bb in this part of the country anyway, I personally would love an equal balance but i've lived a little more than most. But what I experienced then was nothing but admiration from females/girls I was dark/new/different and all that, the guys hated me..at 1 point i had 3 guys literally tryin to hang me from a tree with my school tie... yes still around my neck...yeah his girl liked me... big deal, fast forward 10 years those same guys wanna chill and for me to take them out and help them with ladies. Maybe I should of helped maybe not hopefully they've helped themselves or will once they wake up and smell the coffee.I too like xilla have seen the lighter sibling being treated better. Without rambling on - my point you can be pink,red,brown,yellow,green or technicolor for all I care, an idiot....

Is an IDIOT (you know i wanted to type something else). I shower my wife with gifts, bday/christmas or just because. She spoils me 2. I ignore her as she does with me maybe when i'm a typical man...but not to bore you guys/gals anymore it's got nothing to do with skin colour, if she where darker or albino i'd do the same.  If I have offended anybody... sorry not itentional,sorry to ramble peace Z

September 11, 2008, 07:53 AM EST

Ok, I don't know how I feel about this one. I'm a "red bone" even though I can not stand that terminology at all. But yes I do have fair skin. Some of the things that you mention in this post are true but that doesn't apply to just "redbones". That applies to women in general. We tend to go for the idiots and those that act like assholes. Versus the nice man that has a 9-5 job. Reason being because we like drama  or should I say excitement to a certain extent, we want a MAN. For example if we are arguing and I say "shut up!" don't shut up, say something back. Most good guys are just cornballs straight up and down. Their boring. Now don't get me wrong, this may seem a little messed up that it's like this but it is what it is. For example if Tiger Woods was just an average joe on the street. Do you think sista's would even be attracted to him? HELL TO DA NO! Yes I said it out loud. LOL. The way to any woman's heart is to be yourself and act like you got some damn since. Most men are wanna be's and always talking about what they fenna do. I call them Fennas not niccas.  I'm fenna get a job, Im fenna do this, and I'm fenna do that. How do you talk to a red bone? Talk to her like you would talk to your mother with some damn respect. When you approach her say "excuse me miss" not "Hey Red!" 9 times out of 10 that's going to get you the cold shoulder. Cause I know when I get approach with such disrespect I come back with "What up dirty". Hey it works! LOL they usually apologize and straighten up their act....Peace and hairgrease..Panties and Drawls....Ms.Hooks

September 15, 2008, 06:14 PM EST

To me it all is a part of the mystery of how slavery damaged our psyche also the propaganda the caucasions have subjected the world to of it being superior and pure and something to be desired.Excuse me while i make the standard word association "fair skin and fair hair" as opposed to my nappy what "unfair hair and skin". Unfortunately that is still alive and thriving in our communities and it hurts very deeply. My husband is carmel color and almost all of his friends have light complexioned wives and i do mean all of them,they are successful people and very smart but that seemed to be a symbol of arrival for them every thing on the list was checked and then they made the stroke next to "light wife" and that meant set!!I have no association with these fools. You cant help whom you are attracted to but at least explore the reason(s) why. We need to love each other no matter the complexion,Obama cant fix this if he wins  but it will cause a lot of embarrassment if we "act up" because of our own racial issues while he's in there.

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